06th

December

2019

By Ektaa Sibal

Emotional Harmony Leads to Holistic Success

Success is a term that we usually apply for material prosperity however that’s just one part of it. Success is also about happy relationships, good health, passion for life, emotional stability and peace of mind.

Emotions hold a center place to become successful holistically.  Financial success without emotional balance can cause havoc in a person’s life. This is perhaps one of the reasons that a lot of financially successful people suffer from stress, anxiety, loneliness, anger issues, broken relationships. Anger, Depression and Stress infact have become one of the most widespread concerns in today’s world.

Emotions have a deep impact on our health too. If our emotions are not in harmony it is imperative that our body and life will get affected.  Our body responds to how we think, feel or act. For instance, if we are feeling sad, our sleep cycle will get disturbed and that may lead to headaches or stomach issues.  However, alternatively if we are feeling happy, our body will have more energy and we will be able to accomplish more in less time.  Our body is constantly giving us signals for the thoughts or feelings that we may be carrying. Anger issues and Depression can create various disorders in our body, and these issues are usually formed because we have no power over our emotions. Numerous physical issues such as back pain, stiff neck, stress, stomach ulcers or indigestion, blood pressure, insomnia, palpitations, extreme tiredness, weak immunity or constipation etc are all signs that our body gives that our emotions are not being managed well. At times we are so engrossed in finding solutions to our physical problems that we don’t look at the underlying cause of it. When the cause of any physical issue is in our own sub-conscious mind then no medicine can solve the issue. Hence, we keep running from one doctor to another doing numerous tests on ourselves and causing more harm to our mind and body.

Talking about Emotional Harmony, it simply means balancing our emotions. As humans we cannot say that “I will never experience any negative emotion” as that is not possible. Here negative emotions are hate, grief, jealousy, anger or any feeling that strips away the happiness and makes you feel lifeless.  We are born to experience both positive and negative emotions however we must remember that while experiencing any negative emotion we should not just start living in it. For instance, a person who over-thinks a lot or becomes depressive is living in a state of negative emotions.  Negative emotion pulls out the passion from our lives especially when we let them affect us or do not express it in the right way.   It doesn’t let our minds think rationally or take the right decisions.  We need to balance negative emotion with positive emotions such as hope, confidence, interest, gratitude, joy, love etc. or any feeling that gives us direction and makes us happy.

When we experience negative emotions, we need to deal with it appropriately.  For instance, a person who is going through an extremely difficult phase in his/her life may have been sad and depressed; but decides to transform his/her life and takes control of the emotions that are pulling him/her down. He/she learns to deal with the negative emotions and balances it with positive emotions. Such an experience helps a person to become equipped in managing their emotions; provided one is eager to learn and self motivated to accept the transformation.

Emotional harmony brings us closer to understanding our emotions, feelings and thoughts and balances it in such a way that it brings out the best in ourselves. When our emotions are balanced, our feelings and thoughts are bound to be positive leading us to become emotionally successful.

How to bring Emotional Harmony within ourselves is the next big question. There may be several ways to bring emotional balance, however I have found in my experience that the below mentioned techniques can really help in achieving Emotional Harmony-

Know yourself

To know what emotions you are feeling is the most vital step to bring emotional harmony. A self aware person is more likely to manage their emotions than someone who is not aware of the emotions he/she might be feeling. A lot of times we act or judge people based on our feelings and emotions that we may have experienced. At this point if we are aware of our emotions, we will act in a more appropriate manner which can help us in succeeding in life. Being aware also requires practice and a continuous effort to remind oneself of the emotions or the feelings that a person might be going through. Writing our thoughts or the feelings and emotions associated with an event that we might have experienced helps us in recalling if a similar event occurs and also helps us in being aware of what triggers us to act or behave in a particular way.

Be your own driving force

It is essential for us to keep motivating ourselves to identify our emotions and manage it according to the situation. A lot of situations at times force us not to identify the emotions but react spontaneously and that can lead to severe consequences. In order to motivate ourselves we have to consciously remind ourselves to identify our emotions and manage it especially in stressful situations. This is where “conditioning our mind” to do the right thing is required. Conditioning our mind to consciously remind ourselves about our emotions, feelings and thought process helps us in taking control over our decisions and actions. Meditation is one of the very important tools for conditioning our mind as it helps us to bring focus and change our thought patterns too.

Adapt to change

Just by being aware of our emotions and by motivating ourselves to work on our emotions is not enough, we need to understand that when we are changing ourselves we need to be open to adapt ourselves with that change. We at times become so rigid or we become so comfortable in our thoughts that we stop seeing the need to change. Being flexible and adaptable helps a great deal to succeed in life. This flexibility has to be in all our areas of thought patterns, feelings for self and others and managing emotions. To let go is also a mechanism to bring change, when we let go of unconstructive thoughts, we are changing our brains chemistry and when we do it on a recurring basis, our brain stops storing unconstructive thoughts and any emotions or feelings associated with those thoughts also are released. While we are doing all this we have to remember to keep ourselves adaptable to the new way of thinking and be flexible in making it a conscious effort.

Remove doubts and fears

Fears and doubts are the main cause for someone to not be able to manage their emotions as a lot of times we tend to doubt our own abilities and fear about what if we are not able to manage ourselves. Sometimes this fear is not just limited to us we also tend to doubt that while we are managing ourselves what if the other person in the situation doesn’t reciprocate in the same way. This expectation from others also becomes an obstacle in our pursuit towards emotional harmony. We have to remind ourselves that this journey towards being emotionally strong is not about others it is about our own personal development.

The way by which we can reduce our doubts and fears is by taking one step at a time. Do not over burden yourself by over-thinking or by putting too much pressure on yourself to achieve emotional strength faster. The transformation has to be step by step wherein we identify one emotion that we would want to manage and then manage it while guiding our mind to work on the fears or doubts associated with that particular emotion or situation.

Continuous effort

Success is not permanent; it’s not something that if we achieve it once, we have it forever. Success happens when we work relentlessly towards it (success) without stopping and make it into a habit, and success is not limited to financial growth; it is all about succeeding in life in all the areas, be it personal, emotional, relationships, or health. If we are emotionally successful, we can strive to achieve success in all the other areas too. Emotional harmony is all about succeeding in managing our emotions, which is a continuous effort. One needs to become habitual in understanding their own emotions and try to use the right emotions for almost all the situations in life. This may seem an enormous task but once we start doing it incessantly, it does change into a habit – in which we become instinctively competent.

Our emotions drive our thoughts which in turn create behavior and leads to action. If we are successful in balancing our emotions, our actions would automatically lead us to a life which is more fulfilling and positive. Life will always have its ups and downs, if we accept this fact, it will definitely help us to become more positive and look at life as a way to learn from it!


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